You will use statements as main method to build and maintain the context for your vibe. The simple rule is "avoid questions, make statements". Every question can be reformed into a statement. One of the main charasterics of very good vibing is the lack of questions. You don't ask anything and the other person doesn't ask. Note that occasional set up questions are allowed as long as they lead to material you can vibe from.
Here is the simple example of statement: "I like Coca Cola better than Pepsi. But the new Coca Cola Zero doesn't taste so good."
You could have said "Do you prefer Coca Cola or Pepsi?" but instead you made a statement which is actually much better thing to do. You lead by example and the other person will likely tell his/her opinion aswell, resulting into better vibe.
Learn this act of making statements. You can make statement about anything. How you like/feel about something. What just happened to you. The possibilities are endless. Just remember to tie statements with situational relevance.
DJ: I like Coca Cola better than Pepsi. But the new Coca Cola Zero doesn't taste so good.
HB: I like Coca Cola too.
DJ: We have both very good taste then ;) But usually I don't drink much Coke. Only sometimes when I'm having night out and ending up into fast food restaurant. I try to avoid those places.
HB: I drink it often but I don't like fast food either. I just like the taste.
The easy way to generate endless material for conversation is to simply pick one word from the previous sentence that was said. In the last sentence HB said here we could pick "drink, fast food or taste". Then simply riff something from that word. E.g. let´s say we pick the word "taste":
DJ: I'm keen about really tasting things. You know, it takes lot of training of smell to really taste things and find all the different small nuances there. Did you know that we mainly taste things with our smell? Anyway, I don't train my superior nose with these cheap colas but the premium quality french wines :)
See how it works? It sounds perfectly SitRel so it fits there nicely. This is a nice technique to transit into another thread of conversation. Notice that this is rather LONG thing to say. So say it slowly, don't just spurt it out of your mouth. After each sentence you say, take one or two breaths. This allows her to say something too. It is good that she talks more then you anyway!! ;) Also notice that there is one sentence in question form. This is not a real question but a rhetoric question. I don't really need her to answer to me but I want to keep her in the conversation. This is very important. She should be always kept involved somehow in the conversation.
Good vibing is mostly well done topic association. When she says:
HB: I drink it often but I don't like fast food either. I just like the taste.
We can go, for example, into topic of health, fat americans or fast-food restaurants being unethical. It's up to you what you want to say or talk about. Of course this discussion doesn't have any deeper meaning in any level but it serves as context to make you feel connected and keeping the vibe alive. So even when you are having zero interest in the topic at hand, it's essential to make your contribution so the vibe keeps alive. So, statements are your basic tool to build the vibe. Remember to use your three colours of DJ to make your energy visible. Then you need some creativity to associate between topics, run stories, routines etc. These are the things that bring ENERGY into the interaction and create superior vibe.
Also notice this: these statements are just used to create the context for the vibe. The actual vibe happens on another level. What matters is HOW you say things and what is your body language. But you need some vibing context to create the vibe and you use your conversation skills for this. So you need to learn the verbal and the nonverbal part of the game. Together: great vibe!
