Situational Relevance

Before we start to vibe, let's make one thing clear: you must always be situationally relevant, SitRel for short. Credits for this concept go to Vincent from theApproach (Be sure to check their site, the method they are offering is the state of the art natural gaming).

SitRel consists of three components: context, energy level and comprehension.

• Context. The things you say must have some context. In social interaction context is usually what happens around you, how relevant that is and what topics you are talking about. If you are in a high energy environment like club then you can jump between topics but otherwise you must be contextual. Use the topic association and don't jump to random topics. That's not smooth vibing. Occasionally you are allowed to make jumps but nothing too random. If you keep jumping between topics you will appear as nervous and that violates the rule of being relaxed. You can appear as try hard too if you do this. Girl senses that you want to impress her or desperately trying to find something that will interest her, and that is a turn off for her. If girl says something like "that was random" then you know you have stepped outside of SitRel.

If you have memorized some cool routine and want to show it to her then you can wait for the situation to allow you to throw this in. It is the smooth way. If you cannot resist and want to throw it in anyway then you must root it well (use some bridges).

• Energy level. Your energy level versus her energy level. These must be matched. In fact your energy level must be a tiny bit higher than her. If the energy levels are much off balance then the vibing cannot occur. Either she's going hyper and you are passive or vise versa. If you find girl having extremely low energy level then you should start from very low energy level. Then it's your job to gradually bring the energies up to create good vibe.

• Comprehension level. You can talk her easy or difficult concepts. Tickling her or playing rock-paper-scissors is extremely low comprehension. Talking about pop news is low comprehension. Talking about philosophy is high comprehension. You must match her comprehension level to be situationally relevant and thus vibe well. With some girls you will never need to use high comprehension talk. Usually you want to use high level of comprehension only when the girl talks in high comprehension first. Guys who use high comprehension talk to low comprehension girls have long history of being unsuccesfull with females. What's more usually the low comprehension talk is enough for good vibing. Yes, we don't need to show how intelligent we are when we are around girls. They just get turned off by this. Save your talk about politics and philosophy to your buddy. Social intelligence is more important to girls and it makes sense. Guys who are socially intelligent usually have better general intelligence. They are usually successful in their lives and this is what girls want. SitRel WILL make you socially more intelligent and girls more attracted to you.