Okay, we start this from the most basic skill: relaxing. See, "game" (your model to get girls) as we call it is like a pyramid. It requires a very solid ground to build upon. This is the place where you should start your game from. First, think where you go usually to meet girls. It may be a bar, a club, your school, your workplace, library, coffeeshop, starbucks or whatever. Where-ever you go, you should try to stay calm and relaxed. The relaxation should be both mental and physical. But now, as we are just starting I won't assume that you are able to relax in every possible venue. A lot of the inner relaxation comes from the knowledge that you are actually so good that you can have a good time with almost any girl. And I don't mean any wishful thinking either; this knowledge comes from direct experience, you have tried this stuff on this site and you have learned social interaction.
Also let's get this straight: you cannot learn to be good with women by just reading books/websites about seduction. You can learn the governing principles but the real game is played out on the field. I won't lie to you and say that you will be excellent with women when you have completed reading my material. If you are not currently successful then you will be definetly much better. But the real success requires that you go out there and really apply everything that I have taught here. This stuff isn't rocket science but it takes courage to start going out and really meeting people. This is called stepping out of your comfort zone. First it feels difficult to start going out, start talking to girls and then start seducing them. But once you have done it few times, it becomes easier and easier. This is because you have done something you previously didn't have the balls to do and expanded your comfort zone. Ask yourself now what is your comfort zone. Do you feel comfortable in the nightclubs? Can you start conversation with any girl? Do you do so only when drunk?
So now, we learn how to relax. A good part of the relaxation comes from the relaxed body language. Practise that not only in social situations but daily. You should adapt this relaxed body language to your daily use. It may feel "odd" to do these all things if you are not already doing them. If you have a habit of sitting your feets crossed then you must break that habit and learn to sit your feets apart. You may feel like you want to cross your legs because you are used to sit like that and it is comfortable. But hey, this is the start, it may be kind of (mentally) painful but you have to learn to do this.
You may wonder WHY I say you should keep your feet separeted. The reason is that you look a lot more open and relaxed this way. People notice this and assume that you have a good self-confidence. Sitting feet crossed is kind of femine thing. It also makes you look stiff, uneasy and closed. I promise you that you will notice the difference, maybe not now or tomorrow, but eventually you will. Just keep doing as I say and you will attract girls ;) Ok, I hope that you checked the body language list and you are now wondering how you can remember all that stuff. Practise. That is how you will learn this foundation skill to your game.
Proper body language is the biggest part of the outer game that will make you look more relaxed and which will also make you feel more relaxed. You MUST dress well and keep yourself groomed. This makes you a lot more relaxed and let's other people see that you know how to take care of yourself. Good body language, proper dressing and grooming are essential building blocks of our pyramid of game. If these basics are not taken care of your game will be handicapped.
The inner relaxation is attained only through enough practise. First you have to read this material through, that will add to your social skills and hopefully make you more confident.
There are two types of conversation. First is discussing about points and perhaps debating about them, the second is vibing. With our male friends we often use the talk-a-point-and-debate-style. There is some point we want to prove right. This is ok, using the debate-style is good to use when talking with other guys but with girls it gets you nowhere. With girls the way to communicate is to vibe. With vibe we concentrate on how the conversation FEELS not who is right or wrong. Vibing builds the mood and athmosphere.
Once the conversation starts let it flow. Don't worry if you are making good impression or not. Let go of the goals. You don't have to bang that girl the same night you met her. That's part of your agenda but you can push it away from your mind. Use the three colours of DJ to go on with your interactions. Remember, focus must always be on the FUN !! And to have fun, you must be relaxed. The relaxation will come automatically to you once you become good in vibing. You will learn that you can handle any social situation, in fact - they are very easy.
When you are playing the game (of seduction) you shouldn't concentrate in it that much. Allow yourself to relax and just enjoy the interaction. When it's over you should ask yourself what you could have done better. It's not possible to remember all the things you have learned here when you are in the field. Analyzing the interaction afterwards is good but never in the field. Also making scenarios in your mind and visualizing yourself using some spesific technique is helpful in taking that part of your game.
