Okay, this is a basic model for one type of conversation. The structure is as follows: Fact, Feeling & Value. You start with stating some fact. Then you tell how you feel about it. Finally you tell what this means to you. Although this model is very simple it is efficient and can be used time after time after time. Drop it into your toolbox and your vibe will improve too!
So, let's get into the examples!
DJ: I was into this party last night and this very cute girl came to me and started grinding herself to me (fact). I knew what she was up to but I couldn't feel any arousal (feeling) because I didn't have any connection with her. I really value taking time to get to know the girl before going any further! (value)!
DJ: So, instead I went and ordered a cold beer. Damn, it was soooo good after I had been yelling to my friends all night. I hate it when those places are too loud.
DJ: I kept talking with my old friend. It was nice to see him from a long time. We had a chat about the far-east situation. Well, i wasn't really into it but he had much to say. I like it when people have some opinions and stuff to say. After a while I was able to direct the conversation into Islam and women. He wasn't into that one again, but I like to have any excuse to talk about girls ;)
As you can see, you can often omit the "value" part. Do tell your values sometimes, this is how the girl gets a good feel about you, who and what you are.
This structure makes good for some lowkey conversation. You don't have to use super energetic state to say the things you are saying. You could walk in a mall with girl and talk about things that you see around. In brief: I wouldn't use this structure to gain the initial attraction but this structure is very good for the rapport stage.
