Short for Average Frustrated Chump. The guy who has no game. He wants a girl for himself but can't get them. Girls call him freak or creapy guy, guys call him wussy.
He has many self-limiting beliefs:
- Thinks he is not a good enough
- Blames his looks of not having a girlfriend
- Thinks that he is a nice guy and cannot understand why girls are interested in the "jerks" instead of him
- Thinks girls are something to worship
- Thinks girls don't enjoy sex
- Thinks girls don't enjoy talking about sex
Here are some common things that AFCs can have:
- He doesn't vibe well.
- He isn't playful because he fears he could upset the girl somehow.
- He is mostly boring. He has only interest in few topics, like computers games and programming.
- He doesn't groom, dresses badly or stinks.
- He becomes nervous around girls.
- He has general problems communicating with other people.
- He hasn't got any friends.
- He mostly stays home.
- He is virgin, never had a girlfriend or never kissed a girl (and he is over 20).
- He is needy.
- He is too thin.
- He has bad posture and his bodylanguage is nervous.
- He is afraid of doing things.
- He asks a lot of questions when he talks.
- He doesn't initiate talk when around other people.
- He shows some asperger's symptoms.
- He brags in the wrong manner or about wrong things.
- He doesn't flirt with girls.
Most AFCs aren't capable of creating attraction. But those who can screw it up on other areas. They become too attached to one girl and they fear that she will leave them if he doesn't always do what she wants. He puts women on pedestal and so he becomes overly nice around women. This behavior can happen in the relationship when guy gets worried about losing girl and thus he starts to exhibit AFC behavior.
The niceness what AFC has is only his mask that hides his true motives. Upsetting the girl somehow makes him think that he will lose her. He acts never sexual because this might upset the girl aswell.
Inside himself he feels bad. This feeling comes from not getting what he wants. He wants a girlfriend, just one special girl to be happy and spend the rest of his life with. But he just CAN'T get any girls. Somehow girls just never show him any interest. So he get's into the negativity loop and feels more and more bad about himself. There are things that can make him forget the pain inside him. Alcohol, drugs, excessive video gaming, sitting home and surfing internet, online role playing games, spending most of his time learning to program etc. Gone too far with his antisocial behavior AFC eventually turns into a freak. Of course this is just a small part of AFC-population that turn into freaks.
There are different levels of being an AFC.
- The most common is person who is otherwise socially normal but with girls he just fails to create and keep attraction. We call him just AFC.
- Bad AFC doesn't know how to groom himself and dresses badly, stinks etc. He tries to get girls but his appearence is too repelling.
- Girlphobic AFC. He wants a girlfriend but is too afraid to even talk to girls. He can be otherwise normal in his looks/appearence but communicating with girls is huge wall to him that he can't get over. When he talks to a girl his mind becomes messy and he speaks too fast and gets very nervous.
- Very bad AFC. He doesn't have friends and hobbies. He likes to stay in his house and does things that he likes. He is usually virgin too.
Girls know how these guys work. Girls know that AFCs don't have "balls" to act according to the true nature of true man. And if they are not sure about him, they can always throw some shit-tests to find it out. Girls stay away from bad and very bad AFCs. They are degrating for her value and possibly even dangerous (she can't tell what frustrated guy could do to her).
Better term would be "needy guy" NG. The neediness compresses all the bad things what you might have there on your way to become very successful with women. For true Don Juan there are no AFC qualities left but this requires some work on his inner-game, to fix his beliefs and to through-outly see who he is. Turning an AFC to Don Juan takes plenty of work but is possible. Otherwise I wouldn't have written this website.
